Every year, my birthday rolls around on May 19th, and I can’t help but reflect, not just on life, but on love, celebration, and the meaningful moments that bring people together. As a wedding planner, I’ve been privileged to witness the magic of hundreds of "best days ever," and each one has shaped how I see the world and how I approach helping couples bring their vision to life.
This year, I’m stepping into a new chapter, another candle, another year of doing what I love. And in the spirit of celebration, I want to share a few birthday-inspired lessons that might just help you as you prepare for your own big day.
1. Celebrate Yourself, Guilt-Free
Birthdays and weddings are both moments where you're allowed to be a little selfish. And you should be! One of the biggest things I remind my couples is: THIS IS YOUR DAY! Whether that means skipping a tradition that doesn’t feel authentic or splurging on the champagne tower you've always dreamed of, lean in. Your love is worth celebrating in a way that feels right for you.
2. Start with Gratitude, Always
Every year, I wake up on my birthday and give thanks to God for the people in my life, the clients I get to serve, and the trust placed in me to manage once-in-a-lifetime events. When wedding planning feels overwhelming (and yes, it can), gratitude can center you. Be thankful for your partner, your support system, and every vendor who shows up for you.
3. Timelines Matter, but So Does the Moment
As the birthday girl and a planner, I love a good schedule (I truly do). But just like birthdays, weddings aren’t only about timelines, they’re about how you feel in the moment. Build a timeline that protects your peace and creates space for joy. Let that be your gift to yourself.
4. Aging is Beautiful, So is Growth
Each year brings more wisdom, more perspective, and a deeper understanding of what matters most. The same goes for planning a wedding. It’s not just about pretty details—it’s about how you grow together through decisions, compromise, and vision. Celebrate that.
5. Don’t Forget the Dessert
I mean it. The dessert is more than a dessert, it’s a symbol of celebration. And whether it’s a multi-tiered cake or a donut wall, let it be sweet and intentional. And hey, if anyone wants to bring me a slice of lemon cake this year, I won’t say no.
In honor of my birthday, I’m offering one piece of advice to every couple reading this.
Be present. Whether it’s your wedding day or just a Tuesday night with your person, celebrate the moment you're in. Life is made of them.
Thanks for being part of my journey. Here’s to another year of helping you plan yours!
With love, frosting, and champagne,
Renee